Standing at the bar in Parma station drinking a large cold Moretti, the afternoon is grey and wet and misty, they might have avoided the floods here, but the atmosphere is that of a day that has taken the day off, not botherered to wake, kept the curtains closed.
Here, alone, on the road more than I have ever been and 10 years on, it is hard not to think back on my first tour of Italy in 2001, with singer-songwriter Peter Byrne and ex-Miro cellist and vocalist Julia Palmer:
How pissed off they must have been that I was “headlining” most of the gigs, or at least going on last, this young, know-nothing, full of enthusiasm and unwarranted confidence;
The clown-like clothes I wore, made by my adoring girlfriend – first efforts I loyally wore even though I felt paranoid that I looked ridiculous the night of the first gig at the Banale in Padua;
Julia’s tantrums, real full-on rock star moody tantrums on this tiny little tour of small acoustic venues to promote an almost non-existent release of an acoustic compilation album put together by Terry O’Brien (who has since gone on to become a highly successful manager of top UK folk artists). As it turns out, the tantrums were somewhat warranted – Julia turned out to be pregnant with her first child and had found out just then, on tour;
Peter on the phone constantly to his girlfriend. And then getting lost running, and being dropped back on a student’s moped at the hotel just before the tour bus left without him;
Me not on the phone at all to my girlfriend, for which I received a huge bollocking from her outside the promoter’s house in Rimini, that bizarrely is still etched on my memory – that delight in the adventure that all tours elicit somehow tainted now that I knew someone was upset that I was having such a good time. Tours I would realize as the years went on, were much easier to go on when not in a relationship;
Then another seminal relationship moment – going out with the bar staff after the gig, the pretty small blonde one I had flirted with all night, taking me on her own in her car, and that awful moment where we were parked and she was expecting me to lunge and I – should have done actually, but that same youthful enthusiasm had also attached itself to the relationship I was in. I would think about this moment of loyalty for years, not realizing how much resentment I built up with my so-called “fidelity”;
Then hanging out foolish and embarrassed at the club afterwards, giving her an album to make up for not being able to go through with the escapade my flirtation had warranted.
And of course, lovely Lorenzo Bedini – the young, just starting out promoter, now one of Italy’s biggest, putting up with our (or maybe just my) indulgent, artist behavior.
And now? The convivial atmosphere of the tour bus – which I’ve always found seems to lull musicians in to a mood somewhere between the excitement of an away school sports match and the arrogance of the businessman being ferried to some ultra important appointment by his chauffeur – has been replaced by the cheap and reliable Italian train network. As I criss-cross the country, I practice my infant Italian on my neighbours or work on lyrics to new songs that have started coming through this tour.
The group mentality and the formality of a laminated itinerary, per diems and a tour manager has been replaced by a network of 5 different “families” of friends who have organized this latest tour. We are yet to creep south of Rome and enter more wild territory, but at the moment we control the North in an under-stated and lenient manner, putting on small acoustic gigs in bars, restaurants and venues to spread the word of spiritual emancipation and sky-filling love with – oh! My songs? FANTASTIC! Yes, seriously, I have been lucky enough to find some lovers of my music here in Italy who have in turn become good friends.
There is Cristiano and Simona in Rapallo who have known my music since 2002 when Simona bought Cristiano – a songwriter himself with a gorgeous, melancholic voice – a copy of my first album “28” as a birthday present. They came over for the Set It Free album launch at Borderline last year, introduced themselves and our friendship began.
Along with my friend Gessica, who is a PHD student at Genoa University and who brought me in there last week to do a talk to her students about UNLIT and CD sharing, and the amazing Giulia Spinelli – a 12 year old music photographer who takes pictures as good or better than much, much more experienced photographers and is also a bubbly and charming character – these are my North West Italian family!

The team at Blu Radio Veneto.....a had me on for a two hour interview the other day, organised by my padua family...
In the North East there is the Padua Mob, who I met when I went out last year to Sicilia to sing at the wedding of Dario and Daniela. They were big lovers of the album “Supernatural” and so Adele and Niki, their best woman and best man respectively had got in touch with me through the website and asked me to come and sing for them at their wedding a a surprise. Last week I saw them all again for the first time since the wedding – Niki and Sylvia, Dario and Daniela, Lucia and Juliano, and Adele and most of the others who had been at the wedding…..I stayed with Lucia and Juliano, we did an impromptu UNLIT at Nikis’s flat, and they organized a couple of great gigs near Padua and even a couple of interviews, one of which, on local radio, lasted a couple of hours and included many live songs and a couple of bottles of red wine…

Giulia Spinelli....amazing 12 year old music photographer from Lavagna, comes to gigs with her mum, and does better photos than most professionals...
Further south and on the east side (where I’m headed right now, as I am no longer at the bar, but computer out and typing as the intercity is speeding from Parma to Pesaro) is the retreat owned by my friends, the author and I guess “self-help guru” John C. Parkin and his wife Gaia. He is the one behind those books you might have heard of “Fuck It! The Ultimate Spiritual Way” and the like. As soon as I heard about his “Fuck It!” philosophy, and his Italian retreat, The Hill That Breathes, I had got in touch – I guess this was early 2007. Anyway, he responded very positively to my music and just in the middle of recording “Supernatural” he invited me over to do a songwriting workshop and to come and stay at his place….in the event, the first morning’s Tai Chi screwed my back up so badly I was in bed for four days! Ha. I felt so guilty that I couldn’t do the things I said I was going to do…all I could do was just lie still and recover. And ever since, we have been great friends, john and Gaia being big advocates of my music and using it in their workshops and promoting it to their community. I am very grateful to them. Anyway, Alice, who works there, has organized tonights gig in a restaurant in Urbino, just down the road from the retreat and I am really looking forward to seeing them all again for the first time in a while.
On Sunday it will be down to Roma, where the Xtra Music Magazine crew take care of business. They came across my music when I was putting out One Long Song on Adam Tudhope’s Everybody’s Records…the charming Francesca came to London to review a gig for their music site and soon after Dave Depares and I were out in Rome doing gigs and Unlits. Since then I’ve stayed in touch and it’s them who are behind this Sunday’s gig at Fonclea and who I’ll be staying with.
After that, the last and definitely not least of the families are the brit ex-pats! Mair and her daughters Cerys and Agnes – who were the guiding force behind this summer’s tour to Italia, and Juliet and Peter Stavely who literally have one of those sorts of houses you see in books or magazines, or possibly films where they need somewhere that looks absolutely incredible…..we did the last gig of the summer tour at their mansion in the summer and are set to return their next Sunday for the end of tour party / gig, where for the first time all the different families are going to meet!
I can’t wait…..yes, yes, there is a little jealousy from Simona who has taken to calling herself my “mama”, because um, well Lucia has also taken on this role – but what’s a troubadour to do? I figured Simona would be happy knowing that Lucia was happy to be “Mama No.2” but no such luck….ah well, I will have let them sort it out.
All I know is that I have some very good friends here in Italy and I love singing my songs here and I hope I return for many years to come. Now, is there are bar on this train? If so, I would love a glass of Prosecco….that’s something we definitely never did on the tour bus.
XX Troubs



































